Your guests trickle in to the ceremony hall. The arrive full of expectation – they’re excited to see you and your better half dressed to the nines.
You’ve worked hard for this day, needing to take care of so many little things that you may not have even realized you would have needed to worry about. You’ve taken pristine care of your body, your dress, or maybe your suit. You’ve coordinated dresses with flowers and ties. You’ve gotten your parents’ best friends seated next to just the right people. The food is already being cooked for the day…and the wedding coordinator looks at you and nods.
It’s time for you to walk through those doors and down the aisle.
You’ve rehearsed it, and you’ve planned out the program to the final flower. But that doesn’t take away the jitters in your body as you look all around you and take in the love there to support you today, and for the rest of your life. Rehearsing doesn’t take away the fears, or melt away insecurities or last second bubbles of anticipation or wipe the tears away from your face.
That’s what music does.
Imagine…the music begins. You process down the aisle. Your best friends are lined up beside you.
You’re not worried about what you were worried about just moments before. Your body shivers with the ease of relaxing, your energetic fibers unwind just enough that you can breathe normally – or at least deeper! – and so that you can slow down and enjoy this trip down the aisle.
You sense that your guests, who just moments before were a conglomeration of bottled up energy, bursting in all sorts of directions, settle down and settle into each other and into the day. They are no longer worried about what they’re wearing, or what they bought you, but they are able to simply open up and take you in.
You breathe a sigh of relief. Maybe Mom and Dad take a deep breath.
You look at your loved one and…
The rest of the ceremony can proceed, smoothly, filled with as much love as is possible. You milk this experience for all it’s worth, and soak up all the goodness it has to offer you.
When you can’t or don’t want to depend on the loved ones in your family or in the church choir to provide your music, contact me.
Some brides know exactly what songs they want and that’s perfect. I really love weddings that include different but not necessarily competing genres of music – it’s fun to customize and do something a little different.
I’ll attend the wedding rehearsal, I will show up early to your event.
It’s easy to add me to your string quartet. I collaborate with the music minister if you’re getting married in the church, and I can provide other musicians if necessary or desired (guitar, violin, piano are the three most common).
Can you just show up and sing without us being in contact before hand?
I try my best not to do this. Weddings are special times with special energy for everyone involved, and I find that vocal music is just better when you know the family.
How early do I need to book you?
These days, less notice is better. Give me 2-3 weeks advance notice and if I can help you out, I will do so with bells on. Ok, not literally. Don’t feel bad about contacting me late. A lot of brides do because you had to get the venue, the food, the officiant, the guest list, the invitations, the favors…and then, all of a sudden the ceremony itself actually sneaks up on you! Currently I cannot commit to 2014 weddings, but do give me a try if you’re in a pinch for your wedding that’s around the corner.
What results can I expect?
You can expect that you and your guests will leave feeling uplifted in spirit, able to more fully enjoy the ceremony that they’re attending.
You can also expect to be able to grow present within your own body and feel an opening in your heart so that you can communicate from a true place within yourself on your big day.
Does this really work?
This is the power of music. And I’d like to think some of it has to do with me….
Why do I need you? Can’t I just do this on my own?
I always like to ask:
What do you want to feel as you are there, surrounded by the people you love?
It can be a wonderful choice for many brides to depend on whomever is closest to you for your music, and you might want to use a recording – (though personally, I always prefer live music over recordings – the live element is so much richer!) Sometimes, it’s not.
Will I see a return on my investment?
Attributed to Maya Angelou, I love this quote: “People won’t remember what you said. They won’t remember exactly what you did. But they will never forget how you made them feel.”
It doesn’t matter if they don’t remember what I sing, but you want people to walk away with this glow…that leaves them saying, “Wow, that was the most spectacular wedding ceremony. What a magical day.”
Look for these things:
- Brightness in people’s eyes
- Ability to communicate genuinely from the heart
- Ability to articulate difficult things
- Inclination towards affection, closeness, warmth
- Unexpected openness
Your return on your investment will also depend on a few other things – are you open to music as a process to open hearts, including your own? Are you open to the idea that the effect of the offering might never be communicated directly to you? Are you OK with the idea that some people might prefer to simply enjoy their personal sensations without shouting them from the mountain top?
I’m really busy and overwhelmed. How much time do I need to work with you beforehand?
Not that much. If you have an idea of what you want in your ceremony, let me know that up front. If you need me to just choose for you, tell me straight up.
Can I contact other clients you’ve worked with?
You can check out my testimonials page here.
I’ve never invested in myself like this before. How can I justify this expense after everything else? I really didn’t think about the music at all as a part of the budget.
If it’s your wedding, think about this: people are coming from potentially all over the world – your world – to support you. There’s a coming together of families. There’s a mutually agreed upon joining and celebrating of spirits on the higher plane.
And, from a more left-brained standpoint, while there’s maybe a half hour that you’ll need me during the ceremony, there are many hours I put in behind the scenes. So, the fee includes all my rehearsal time (if any), travel time, and time on any other logistical details.
When handled with care, music is medicine.
If I’m not quite ready to get started, is there a way to sample your work?
I can understand that getting started with something like this could feel a bit different than normal.
First, listen to me sing here.
Do you play piano, or another instrument?
I am a vocalist, and while I have a background that includes playing the standup bass, I do not play another instrument when I sing. Tell me if you have an instrument preference, and then that will inform what songs we choose. Or, vice versa – we can decide the songs and then choose the instrument.
I have a few questions for you. Can I talk with you on the phone?
Absolutely! The best way to reach me is by email at heather (at) heatherhightower (dot) com first. Send me
- Your name
- Your questions
- The date of your event
And then we’ll schedule a time to connect.
I like custom creating musical offerings for your wedding. It would be boring if it were all the same. Right?