Funerals are a special time in the life of a family. They can be a beautiful time of passing, letting go, and letting the new emerge. The singer is invited to take on the sacred role of creating space for all of the emotions to be processed, or at least begun to be processed. Through intentionally placed sound and presence, offered by the singer before and after song, grips of stuck emotion can be unleashed, enabling family members to feel their grief, allow their sorrow – or anger, or any other kind of emotion. Once felt, emotions can then be released. Once released, freedom can be restored. Once freedom is felt, life can move on.
This can be the beauty of a funeral service.
As one member passes, all of us are invited to let go of what was and make space for the new to emerge. Isn’t this a beautiful thing?
As eternal beings, I believe that our spirits exist before we enter this body and continue to exist after we leave this body. Releasing is important for both those left on Earth, and in some cases, important for those who have chosen to leave this body and move on to their next phase of existence. Who’s to say that they’re no longer with us? They’re just with us in a different form.
The singer at a funeral has an incredible opportunity to facilitate the movement of the energy for all parties. For even just a few minutes of song, this sacred role can truly help transform the experience of death in the family unit. Personally, I enjoy the space of feeling the energies in the room, communicating with them on an as needed basis, and helping connect messages between realms. Not all singers bring this awareness to their work, and I believe that music with this strong connection is pretty much one of the most sublime experience human life has to offer. Pretty music can be good, but powerful music is…powerful. It is always my intention to create that sacred space as effectively as possible, while dedicating my training to the execution of a great song from a technical standpoint.
With ties that no longer bind, remaining family members can continue processing this evolution of life.
The song of a singer may move a person to tears, and perhaps they don’t know the root of their tears, but they know it was needed. It was beautiful. They wept. They felt. They felt. They felt, and that is beautiful.
If you are in need of a singer for a funeral or celebration of life service, contact me at heather (at) heatherhightower (dot) com.
Commonly Requested Songs include:
- On Eagle’s Wings
- Amazing Grace
- Ave Maria, Franz Schubert
- Pie Jesu, Faure Requim
Do you have a story to share? Or a song that touched you in a passing of life ceremony? Leave a comment below.